Parents, Where Are The 50s When You Need Them? By Geneva Turner Author Of “What If Our Father Were Not A Man”
By Mel Fabrikant Wednesday, August 28, 2013, 04:47 PM EDT
Sharing values in families takes on a new twist today. Parents and grandparents can utilize numerous resources to share time honored and revered principles without sounding like an old guy with a seemingly mythical story about some point in the unrelatable past. However, your teaching methods must become familiar to your children right from the start of their lives.
Whether you believe it or not, children will internalize what you demonstrate as being precious in life. There is an adage that explains, “children will do what you do and not what you say." So parenting and teaching values are costly lessons in "walking the walk and talking the talk." Before you consider your task to be formidable, think about how you will teach your child to eventually eat from a spoon, or tie their shoes, or ride a bike, or to drive your car. Each task has a goal with steps and so do lasting values.
My parents considered the 50s to be filled with negative influences for our future. However, parents today can claim that declaration and name numerous incidents from the evening news of declining environmental trends. Regardless of indicators, your children can learn from timeless values that establish moral behavior.
If you decide that your focus as a parent is to launch your children to become independent functioning adults, then your approach will include much of the following tips:
1. Allow your child's life to be filled with laughter and playtime that includes family outings according to their development level
2. Include home activities and chores that are essential, functional, and allow for discovery of their unique and evolving capabilities
3. Place emphasis on togetherness as a family, and that each person's individuality is essential in making the family different.
4. Learning anything about the world and education, especially economics and finances, become consistent topics of discussion and are fine tuned according to your child's developmental level.
5. Limits and barriers are set as protective mechanisms and parental love. Establish rules that protect your child yet do not hinder healthy participation in activities.
6. Encourage your child to express their opinion in an intelligent and respectful manner. By doing so, you encourage expression of ideas and enhance classroom participation and respect.
7. Empower your child to perform their best in all occasions because you know they can. Here is the major reason, you have observed them at home, and you believe in them.
8. Establish principles of work in your home, and ensure that tasks are completed and not performed haphazardly.
9. Dismantle the possibility of low self-esteem in your children by valuing who you are as a parent and as a person.
10. Forgive yourself and move on if your parenting style is similar to numbers two and three.
Information included here is essential and transcends time constraints. Methods utilized to teach moral behavior in the 50s may include out dated equipment and methods; however, the essence of what is taught and the outcome are proven and unchanged. Find a parenting method that works with your children now, or you may have regrets at the end of your days.
About Geneva Turner
Dr. Geneva Turner earned degrees in nursing from several colleges and universities as well as a master’s degree in biblical counseling. Dr. Turner taught nursing for 19 years and owned several businesses. She has published several professional articles. She retired from the army reserves as a lieutenant colonel and now owns Geneva Turner, PhD, RN, LLC an online life coaching business. Turner resides in Georgia with her family. She recently released her book, What if Our Father Were Not A Man.